You may think you know how to use a Fleshlight, as it seems quite obvious. Every Fleshlight has an orifice to it, be it a anus or vulva, and you know how to use your penis. So in general, using a Fleshlight is pretty obvious. However, if you want to get the most out of your sex torch then we have a few tips that can help.

Fleshlight: The Make Up

Fleshlight male sex toys are made up of a soft realistic material called SuperSkin. This material is designed to be as realistic feeling as possible. The masturbation sleeve or inner sleeve features a tunnel that is lined with various bumps, ridges and other textures. These are in place to give you even more stimulation whilst using your Fleshlight. Furthermore, the SuperSkin material is designed to warm up with friction, making it feel even more realistic.

Fleshlight Sleeve

The SuperSkin inner sleeve is housed in plastic casing that is shaped like a flashlight, which is how the male sex toy range got its nickname the ‘sex torch’. The plastic case gives the masturbation sleeve additional support and makes the stroker feel even tighter. The plastic case also features a twist cap. This means that you are able to control the pressure and air flow of the male masturbator.

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Using A Fleshlight

Using a Fleshlight is pretty straight forward and you can pretty much guess how to use it. However, there will be some great tips below to ensure that you are getting the best results from the worlds best selling range of male sex toys.


Before you start using your Fleshlight make sure that you take it out of the plastic case, give it a quick clean, and then put the inner sleeve back in. Once your Fleshlight is clean and ready to go, sit back, relax, put on one of your favorite movies and get ready for your world to be rocked! 

Warm Up Your Inner Sleeve

The soft SuperSkin inner sleeve warms with friction, so you could warm up your Fleshlight like you would any other sexual partner. However, Fleshlight have created a purposefully built warming device that slips inside your masturbation sleeve. The warming rod will make your artificial vagina feel just like the real thing. 

If you do not want to invest in a warming rod then why not try putting your male sex toy in a bowl of warm water. You could even do this when you are cleaning it in order to kill two birds with one stone.

Lube Up

When you use any type of sex toy you should always apply personal lubricant to it. Applying lube to both your Fleshlight and your penis is extremely important as it will help to reduce friction. If you do not use intimate lubricant then you may experience some penile bruising. 

When using a Fleshlight we recommend using water-based lubricant. Water-based lube will reduce friction and is extremely easy to clean off of your Fleshlight.

Personal Water Based Lubricant


Using a Fleshlight with different movements and speeds is what will give you different sensations. A Fleshlight gives you the ability to completely set the tempo of your sexual satisfaction. Speed up or slow down for even more sensations during use.

Before jumping straight into using your Fleshlight consider a couple of different ways of using it below.

Use Your Hand

A Fleshlight can be an extension of your arm. When you use your Fleshlight you will probably use it in the same way in which you use your hand whilst masturbating.

Stroking your penis with your Fleshlight will allow you to easily control the speed and angle of your sex toy. This is by far the biggest benefit of using your Fleshlight like this.

The major draw back is that the Fleshlight torch like case is rather large. This means that you may find it difficult to hold in this position for a longer period of time.

If you enjoy stroking your penis but find holding the plastic case a bit too much of a pain, then it may be worthwhile using a smaller Fleshlight or a completely different male masturbation aid.

Hands Free

Using a Fleshlight Hands Free means that you can concentrate on other things. There are several ways in which you are able to turn your artificial vagina into a hands free sex machine!

First off you can buy special pillows that are designed to hold your Fleshlight. For example, the Liberator Shapes Fleshlight Mount On A Mission is a great way for you to get up to some hands free self loving. This sex pillow holds your Fleshlight in place and allows you to move around it taking advantage of a wide array of different angels.

If you would prefer not to buy a Fleshlight pillow then you can simply put your Fleshlight in between your mattress and your bed frame. This allows you to once again have full control over the positions that you use your Fleshlight in. It also allows you to watch your favorite video easily.


Fleshlight sex toys are designed to be used in a variety of different positions. The sex torch shape of the artificial vagina casing allows you to move around into different positions, taking full advantage of the on-the-go shape and design.

Below you can see some of our sex experts favorite positions to use a Fleshlight.

Doggie Style

Doggie style is quite often a favorite position for sexual intercourse. It allows you to take full advantage of the sex toy. To use your Fleshlight in a Doggy Style position simply sit on your knees and start thrusting into it. Alternatively use our little mattress trick to penetrate the Fleshlight in a doggie style like way.


To use your Fleshlight in this position simply start by laying on your back. Make sure you have applied the right amount of lube to your male sex toy and then start moving it up and down your shaft. This allows you to completely control the masturbation aid without a lot of effort.

Shower Play

Using any sex toy in the shower is a blessing! It makes clean up so much easier! To use your Fleshlight in the shower we recommend the specifically designed shower mount that attaches to the Fleshlight, and gives it a suction cup. The suction cup can then be attached to any flat surface. 

LaunchPAD Use

The Fleshlight Launchpad is a specifically designed attachment for your masturbation sleeve that is designed to hold a tablet as well as your Fleshlight. This means that you can easily watch your favorite movie whilst moving and stroking your penis.

Using a Fleshlight is a very straight forward process, and we hope that our sex educators have been able to give you even more information on how to use a Fleshlight. If however you do have any more questions then please feel free to contact us and one of our sex toy education experts will be happy to help you!

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